BY JODIE TRANA
NE LOOK INTO 3-YEAR-OLD ELENA'S acquiescent eyes, and wonder
fills my heart. She is so trusting, adaptable, and resilient. Her eyes sparkle
as she scrunches her face and waves her hands to aid in telling me of her latest
escapade. I still don't understand all of it, as she hurriedly jumbles Russian
phrases from the past with newly learned 3-year-old English. I don't mind, though.
We will have many years to tell each other stories, my daughter and I. Right
now I will simply enjoy her exuberant love for this new life she has begun.
As she runs off to start another adventure, I think of our lives
before her. It hasn't been that long ago that the thought of adopting a child
had not even entered our minds. And now Steve and I tuck four children into
bed each night: Elena, adopted from Russia in May 2003, and her three brothers,
Jacob, Brett, and baby Cort, our biological sons.
God has miraculous ways of speaking to His children, if we will
but listen. In our case He used friends, family, and even the Adventist Review
to communicate His plan for us. God had His hand in the entire adoption process.
Sometimes we knew it. Other times we didn't. Still, He worked in us and through
us to bring a child to her forever family.
I Have Plans for You
God began working out His plan for Elena before she was even born by making
a place for her in our home. Steve and I purchased our first home a few years
into our marriage. We loved the neighborhood, the yard, and the home's 45-year-old
style. But after enjoying the house for more than 12 years, it suddenly felt
small. The four of us were literally running into one anotherespecially
in the morning as we all shared the same bathroom. We had no idea what God had
in store for us, so we took a conservative approach and began looking for a
lot to purchase. We felt that if God wanted us to move, He would make it possible.
During the time that Elena was born in Novokuznetsk, Russia,
we found an acre lot for sale located close to church friends. We weren't convinced
that we should move, so we held the lot as an investment. A year later we started
talking to builders, and before we knew it, a new house was built on the lot.
Just months before Elena entered the orphanage we moved into
our larger home. I knew the new house with the huge yard would be great for
the boys, but I still wasn't happy about leaving our small house. The new house
seemed so big and empty. There was even an extra bedroom that we used to store
my childhood furniture. It took us some time to realize why God had led us to
this house.
It was now time for God to make a place for Elena in our hearts.
I had always read stories about foster care and adoptive families, and marveled
at these people. Still, we had never considered adoption for ourselves. Weeks
before Elena entered the orphanage, God began working on our hearts. He used
another adoptive family and the Adventist Review to plant the first seed.
In an article called "When Will My Mother Come?" in
the July 11, 2002, edition of the Adventist Review, Branka Vukshich wrote
about her experience adopting four boystwo from Bulgaria and two from
Russia. It was this article that got me thinking that maybe we, too, could adopt.
Branka and her husband adopted the boys after their two daughters were grown.
I tucked this information away, thinking I would consider it when the boys were
older. God must have smiled as He realized that He would have to make His plan
a little more obvious to me.
Later my sister-in-law handed me a magazine that included another
story of international adoption. This story told about a family that adopted
a child only 2 years younger than their biological daughter. The story talked
about how beneficial it was to have a little ambassador at home for the newly
adopted child. As the older daughter played with her new sister, lessons of
love, acceptance, and even English were being taught. I could hardly contain
my excitement when I read this article. All of a sudden it all began to dawn
on me. God had a plan for us that we never would have noticed on our own.
Now I just had to tell Steve about this plan! I have to admit
that I was a little nervous. We were both very happy with our family of four.
We were both glad to be out of the "baby days" when a diaper bag is
always needed. I wasn't sure what he would think about adding a third child.
Before talking with Steve, I gathered information from the library, the Internet,
magazines, and books to learn as much as I could about international adoption.
I learned that many countries are open to international adoption. Information
about Russia kept coming up. I was amazed to read that there were as many as
750,000 children in orphanages throughout Russia, including babies and older
children.
Steve was very receptive about the whole idea. When he learned
that we could request a preschool-aged girl, he was convinced. We felt that
if it was God's plan, He would surely make it happen. We would do our part by
starting the paperwork. We also needed to tell the boys. Again, the Review
came in handy. For worship one night, we read Branka's story of adoption to
Jacob and Brett. They were very interested and began asking lots of questions.
We told them what we had learned about Russian children. Suddenly, Jacob's face
lit up. "Are we going to adopt?" he asked. We were relieved by the
happy response from both boys when we told them our plans. We were on our way
to becoming an adoptive family.
Plans Not to Harm You
If all this wasn't convincing enough of God's leading, His plan for our lives
carried us through the uncertain times that can accompany international adoption.
Neither of us had traveled internationally, and a Russian adoption would require
two trips. The first trip was to meet our child, selected by the Russian Ministry
of Education. On the second trip the adoption became final, and we would take
our child home forever. Right before our first trip, America waged war in Iraq.
There were many antiwar demonstrations, and some cautiousness was encouraged
for Americans about traveling to Russia. It took faith on our part to go through
this when so much was uncertain. We didn't know where we would travel in Russia
until one week prior to leaving. Also, information about our daughter was very
minimal. We learned only her birth date before we traveled to meet her. Still,
none of this seemed to deter us. God was holding our hand and leading us through.
Plans to Give You Hope and a Future
It seems that when we are willing to carry out God's plan for our lives, He
gives us so many blessings in return. We will never forget the wonder and excitement
of meeting our daughter for the first time. We were led into a room where she
was playing with a ball, her back toward us. The moment she turned around and
I saw her blue eyes, it was as if I had known her my whole life. I couldn't
anticipate her moves or understand her language, but I knew her. She was my
daughter.
The scenes around us at Elena's orphanageone of five in a city of 600,000
peoplealso touched us. The orphanage staff was very loving and caring
toward the kids. The building was well kept and beautifully decorated inside.
Still there was such sadness when we met Elena's entire group of friends. They
all ran toward us crying, "My mama! My papa!" knowing that they were
all waiting there for the same thing: their mom or dad to take them home.
Many people have told us, "We have always thought of adopting
a child." We find this so ironic that we had never considered it, and yet
here we are. Just think of all the children we could bring home if just a few
families followed through on God's plan for these kids.
Every child deserves a family.
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Jodie Trana lives with her family in Shawnee, Kansas, where she is a home
educator and self-employed business consultant/trainer.