BY KAY KUZMA
Keeping the Sabbath Holy
My comments regarding service activities for youth on the
Sabbath (March 2001) generated a lot of mail. Here are some great responses
that should guide parents and leaders as they plan Sabbath activities for young
people. The principle to remember is Keep the Sabbath day holy.
While looking after a person�s physical needs or helping
your neighbor in an emergency are clearly within the scope of Sabbathkeeping
(Luke 14:1-5), I have difficulty fitting �raking leaves� into either category.
The argument that �it is better to go and work for the Lord on
Sabbath than to overeat and then to go home and go to sleep� is wrong on two
counts:
1. Nowhere does the Bible sanction nonessential work on
Sabbath.
2. One wrong (overeating and sleeping) does not excuse another
wrong (raking leaves on Sabbath).
If leaders want to help young people develop Christian
characters, they should take them out on Sunday to help their neighbors. It
would be a help to the community, the young people would sacrifice their own
time for the work of the Lord, and it would be a witness to the community that
Adventists care about their neighbors and keep the Sabbath.
Raking leaves on Sabbath may be a convenient way to fill the
Sabbath hours and at the same time make the young people feel good, but it is a
poor witness to the community. The Sabbath commandment does not say, �You
cannot do work for yourself, but you can work for somebody else as long as they
do not pay you.� �Gerhard Pfandl, associate director, Biblical Research
Institute.
We need to choose carefully the things we do that represent to others our beliefs about
working on the Sabbath. This is not only a personal issue; it�s also a biblical
one. If clearing leaves was an emergency, that would be an acceptable Sabbath
activity. But to premeditate and plan to do it on the Sabbath in any culture or
country would seem to negate the idea of the fourth commandment (which we all
know says, �In it thou shalt not do any work� [Ex. 20:10]) and to ignore the
holiness of the Sabbath. �Faye Weeks.
Can�t Live With Him
I have fallen out of love with my husband. After 13 years of
marriage I have finally figured out that this man is never going to treat me
with the love and respect he pretended to have when we were first married. He
makes cutting remarks about my intelligence, my physical shape (I am a size
14), and my children. I work at a full-time job. He�s retired and does very
little to help me around the house. Plus, he�s caused a rift between my
children and me. I�ve had it, and I don�t want to live with him
anymore.�Unhappy.
Dear Unhappy:
How sad to invest 13 years in a relationship just to end up
falling out of love.
You must have been getting some needs met to have stayed so
long. Why not make a list? Do you really want to give these things up?
Have you asked him how he feels about living with you? Is he
happy? Is he getting enough of his needs met in this relationship to be willing
to make some changes so that you two can stay together?
Just because two people are married, that doesn�t mean they
can�t spend some time apart. Some couples get along better when they live
separately and �date� each other on occasion, rather than argue over
nitty-gritty daily encounters, such as whose turn it is to do the dishes or
take out the trash. Sometimes it�s only when you step away that you realize you
mean more to each other than you thought.
But it�s also true that absence can make the heart grow
fonder�for someone else. That�s what leads to divorce. It�s one thing to
separate for the purpose of saving a marriage�and another to separate as
preparation for divorce. I don�t think you really want that, do you?
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Kay Kuzma, Ed.D., is founder and speaker of Family
Matters. Send your comments and questions to Dr. Kay, c/o Family Matters, 1105
Big Creek Road, LaFollette, TN 37766; via e-mail to [email protected].