1. Be real. Engage your children in ongoing conversations about your own spiritual journey and growth.

2. Welcome your kids' friends into your home. Talk to them- and listen to them. Uphold your family standards, but never be judgmental.

3. Create landmarks for the spiritual life of your family. Keep a scrapbook or photo album of answered prayers, or plant a tree to memorialize a spiritual event. Be intentional and creative.

4. Make Sabbath a delight. This takes planning and more energy than most parents have, but make it a priority.

5. From the time they are able, encourage your children to take part, and then to lead in family worship. Use all the senses in family worship-taste, sight, touch, intellect. Friday evening worship, especially, can be a big event.

6. Within the family, almost nothing should be off-limits for parent-child discussion. Your kids are being taught by their peers and the media. Swallow your shock and talk with them, and discuss what they're discussing.

7. Encourage your children to think. Help them think through solutions to social problems, and help them search out answers to spiritual questions.

8. Support church activities as parents. Help your kids be involved.

9. Have fun with your children.

10. Emphasize your child's inner self-worth as a child of God, and teach them respect for others.